“I hope you find what you’re looking for,” she said to me. It was laced with regret, and perhaps even a bit of resentment (or is that my projection; if so then maybe it was only an innocuous kind gesture.) I have come to believe that the search metaphor as applied to human satisfaction, contentment, or even meaning, is impotent: it’s one I’ve used all my life and it has never really changed anything. It certainly hasn’t resulted in its analog, “finding.” When we seek we are just carrying our expectations and hopes from one thing or place to another, checking to see if they match (which they never do except on lucky occasions in part or superficially–but the deeper ones, the only ones we really care about, never match up in a search.) Whereas when we create, that is when or how one can approach gratification (of desire?), contentment….It’s not that desire needs to be squelched, just that we are so intensely prone to its misuse and misdirection.
Really it is what we create in our lives that makes a difference. “I hope you will create what you’ve dreamt of,” may be the more constructive sentiment.
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